Lately I’ve just been feeling so down seeing things like a playroom divided into pink princess toys and red firetrucks. It’s the sort of thing that most people don’t even notice because it’s so normalized.
Why do my favorite (progressive) TV shows still have episode dedicated to the happy heterosexual parents “finding out” if they’re having a “boy” or a “girl”? I feel like screaming at the screen, “Just…wait ’til your child is old enough and then ask THEM! You IDIOTS!”
…so then the parents discuss whether they even WANT to know ahead of time. [That’s when I scream, “It doesn’t matter! Now or when the baby is born you still won’t “know.” You…IDIOTS!!!!”
And then, once they “find out,” things get even worse. They say things like, “Oh, it’s going to be a girl! That means ballet and hair-dos and princesses!” or “It’s going to be a boy! That means football and girls and skateboards!”
Ok, so first you assumed genitalia dictates gender, and that there are only two genders (i.e. “Really, I’d be happy with either one.“)
…and NOW you’re not only assuming that gender dictates interests (which is insulting and inaccurate whether you’re cis, trans*, or something else entirely), AND you’re assuming heterosexuality!!!! If it’s a girl you’ll have to deal with boys, if it’s a boy you’ll have to deal with girls! AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
So that’s around the time when I scream, “Good GRACIOUS, your baby is not even BORN yet and already you’re putting them in this minuscule box and acting like it’s so delightful and charming that you’re doing it! YOU IDIOTS!!!!!”
I guess you could say I’m passionate about his topic.
…which is honestly a big part of the reason I’d love to help create a TV show. Media controls our expectations and what we consider normal, and the way we view the world!
What about an episode where a baby is born, the Doctor proclaims “It’s a [boy/girl]!” but this time the parents call the doctor out on assuming to know the gender identity of a newborn and storm out, (as best they can, seeing how one of them just had a baby), still in the hospital gown?
Well…I’d like to see it.
P.S. I apologize for the excessive use of quotation marks and capitalization, but it seemed necessary