Whenever someone tells me it’s “just too hard” to use the right pronoun for a trans or gender queer person, I always think–
Are you trying to tell me it’s too hard to use your brain power? If I decided to exchange the word ‘cup’ with chair’ I could do it. I might mess up a few times, but if I concentrated, and if it was important to me, I would accomplish it quickly.
That in mind, what you’re basically saying to me is “Your identity is not important enough to me to add or remove the letter ‘s’.”
she –> he
he –> she
“I would rather undermine your identity every time I do it wrong. That’s much more fun.”
To which I say, “Why am I friends with you? Oh–I’m not anymore. Goodbye, I’m going over here now.”